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Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Not surprised Bro, hope the decent sleep continues tonight @Determined ðŸŒ›

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Hi  @Learning18 I support my wife who lives with bpd,

This is a thread where I talk about our journey, hoping it may be helpful for you.

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Big + on the self care front today as I am off on a motorcycle adventure with my mum that will take most of the day. Have been looking forward to this for a while 😀

 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

9 hours and just over 200km today 😊

Should have been 8 hours but took a wrong turn for senic detour. 

I was amazed at how much more aware of my surroundings I was riding the bike than in a car. Particularly all of the farm smells riding through the rural areas but also the scenery. 8 will need to make more effort on fluid intake in future though. 

It was quite relaxing though so a self care win I say. 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Ah, it's been too long since I've been on a bike. 🙂 I know what you mean about being more aware. It's good not being shut in a metal and glass box.
I'd imagine a convertable might give a similar-ish experience, but without the kinetic thing of moving with the bike.

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Smc I love the feeling of accelerating up a steep incline (sticking within posted speed limits of course) particularly the twisty bit I mentioned in the other thread. 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined, around Melbourne, the Black Spur is the favoured uphill twisty ride. The first time Hubby (then boyfriend...) took me out there, it was a hard call as to whether I was enjoying the ride or the scenery more. One advantage of pillion is that you can tilt your head back to look at the tall trees stretching over the road.

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Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

What beautiful scenery @Smc, thank you for sharing Smiley Happy

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

Just looked at some videos of that road @Smc. Lovely.  We are blessed with roads like that not far from where we live.   Mum and I were both getting excited by all the options as we rode along making notes for which way we could go next time. 

Bonus is when darling was listening to us discussing our ride she now seems a little interested in going for a ride with me when I am legal for pillion 😀 (12 months and Counting) it will be nice if she will one day come with me .

 

Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.

@Determined, that would be great. 🙂 Has she gone pillion before?

 

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