@BPDSurvivor  thank you for.taking the time to reply.

Darling is not currently seeing anyone. Psychiatrist decided she was doing ok and didn't need him (GP is taking care of scripts). She does have an appointment for Psychiatrist next month for new scripts that gp can't prescribe long term but I'm not sure she has bothered to get a referral for that despite me making an appointment for her. She refuses to see a psychologist due to the $.  And the only one who has ever been any good for her is over an hour drive away. 

The last year or two have been relatively stable (I say relatively because it is our version of ok compared to where we have come from). I can see us loosing ground however with some pre crisis traits creeping back in 🥺  

Possibly because at the end of this year I will be back on the job hunt and change is not good in our world. And she is over identifying with S2 and his school issues.

(She is not helping with his school issues)